Once you have chosen an Online Dating
service, you will be required to write a profile. Writing your profile is
usually one of the first things you do. It s also one of the most crucial
factors to your Online Dating success you either land on a date, or stay
single.
Important! The most important thing to
remember is that Honesty is the best policy because it IS the best policy.
The object is to find someone who will
really like (and maybe eventually love) the real you. It s hard to write the
truth about yourself and not what you hope others think of you but you must try.
You need to be honest with yourself and honest about yourself. It s the first
step in meeting that special someone.
THE someone who will love you,
quirks, imperfections and all but you don t need to sell yourself short
either.
Analyzing your Past Relationships
Really think about the things that
were right and the things that were wrong. For instance, if you really hated
that the last person you had a relationship with smoked in the house or used bad
language, say so.
Just because you are lonely or your
subscription is about to run out is absolutely no reason to compromise. If you
hated those things before, you will continue to hate them.
Be sure to include in your profile the
life style that is important to YOU. If you are a couch potato, you will not be
compatible with an outdoor enthusiast or vice versa.
If you love music and theater, you
will not be happy with someone who is tone deaf or hates plays and movies.
Remember, don t compromise!
If a physical attribute is important
to you, say so and be honest about your own physical appearance.
For instance: If you are a guy who is
5 8 and you are not comfortable being seen with a girl who is 6
something or a girl who is 6 something and not comfortable being seen with a
guy who is 5 8 , you need to say that.
Avoid These Profile Disasters!
I have seen enough profiles to be able
to tell you at least three things that are certain to cause you to fail
miserably this endeavor.
Out of the thousands of profiles I
have read, there were, maybe, 5 that caught my attention, 100 that were
acceptable and the rest were awful. Think about this: your profile and picture
are the two things that will cause another person to contact you and, of the
two, the profile is the most important.
So you need to spend some time and
give some thought to writing it.
The First and Biggest Mistake
I ve seen made are statements
like, I m the guy/girl your daddy would want to shoot on sight.
Uh-uh. Big mistake VERY big mistake.
It or statements like this that are
over used and over rated. Your profile needs to stand out not sound like a
million others. Go read the profiles of others and avoid words and phrases that
are used too often.
And another Dumb Profile Mistake
The next one that I really hate is,
I could be the one you are looking for. Well, duh! Maybe you are, maybe
you aren t. Maybe he/she isn t the one YOU are looking for. If you ve
written that down back space.
Tell people what really makes you
happy and makes your heart beat a little faster. Tell them the things that you
are passionate about.
Tell the FACT that let them know you
are an interesting, well-rounded fun person and one that they will want to know.
Spelling and Grammar Counts!
The misuses of words or spelling
mistakes make you sound well dumb. There is no other word for it.
Tip: MS Office has a spell check and
will check grammar. If you don t have that, at least get someone who knows to
read it over and correct your mistakes before you post it.
